3 Keys to Improve Your Relationship With Anyone

This is my gentle reminder to you.
Stop looking for others to be anything other than what they are.

Focus all your efforts on someone you can change. YOU.

Three Keys to Improve Your Relationship with Anyone

1. Stop looking for others to be anything other than what they are.

Allow them to be, say and do whatever they do as long as it’s not hurting you or violating any of your boundaries. Get curious. Listen and observe without judgement.

2. Focus all your energy on someone you can change. YOU. 

It will take something for you to let go of judging and criticizing them. When you let go of judging and criticizing, you will have space in your heart for curiosity, compassion, patience, and even love. Use all your energy to do your work on you. Don’t wait for them. Their work is none of your business. Focus on you.

3. Put your rule book away. 

Yep. We have a rule book.
Put it away.
People cannot read your mind.
Your rule book is for you.
Other people have their own rule book. For them.

BONUS: Use your body to help you master the art of loving others exactly as they are – and exactly as they aren’t. 

Whenever you find yourself pointing shame and blame on someone else, notice.
Notice the three fingers pointing back at you.

Ask yourself how you are being what you are judging them for?
When have you done what they did?
How are you just like them?

What is your work for you to do?
Stop playing the wait-blame-quit game.

You job is to love & appreciate them – exactly as they are – and exactly as they aren’t.
That’s it.

Today is the day.
Go out and practice.
Focus all your efforts on someone you can change. YOU.

Stop looking for others to be anything other that what they are.

If you are looking for something you can change in yourself, you can:

1) Be generous and share this post with a friend who might need this gentle reminder.

2) Be courageous and click here for a free consult call to find out if coaching with me is for you.