Do you have money strife in your marriage?
You aren’t alone.
It’s the number one issue couples fight about, according to financial expert Dave Ramsey.
It’s a topic many of my married clients bring up in our sessions.
Money strife in your marriage can show up as having differences in your spending and saving habits.
How can you navigate your finances together?
Growing up, the two of you may have heard completely different conversations about money from parents and extended family.
Those comments most likely have an effect on the thoughts you have about money today.
It may be time for one or both of you to rewire your money beliefs.
Barbara Huson, in her recent book, Rewire for Wealth, compares the information we have to lose weight to what we know about creating wealth.
Huson states that most people are aware of the impact eating less, exercising more and making healthy food choices has on their weight.
Similarly, most people know that spending less, saving more and investing wisely will have a direct impact on their finances.
People find themselves resisting the very actions they know will create the results they desire.
If you weren’t resisting your spending or savings plan, what else might you be thinking, feeling or doing?
The very same coaching tools from my Marriage Reconnect program can be used to help you and your spouse lessen the money strife in your marriage.
- Choose to be fully IN — Visualize your money goals.
- Let Go of thoughts that aren’t helpful — Explore your resistance.
- Get in Alignment — Become aware of your words.
- Find Pleasure — Meditate on a regular basis so you respond less from stress and urgency and more from being grounded and present.
- Receive all of it — Celebrate each and every one of your successes.
- Acknowledge, Accept, & Allow — Be aware of and fully feel your urges to spend outside of your plan.
Apply the basics:
Communication with your spouse is key.
Have a plan in place.
Schedule monthly or quarterly meetings to review progress toward your long and short term goals.
Lean on the expertise of an advisor or coach.
Remember, the very same coaching principles and tools from my Marriage Reconnect program can lessen the money strife in your marriage.
Let’s breach the money divide between you and your partner.
Learn more about my 1:1 Marriage Reconnect coaching program here.
Let’s do this together.
I’ll share the tools, strategies and mindset that have worked for my clients in their lives and in their marriages.
Send me an email with your relationship questions. I promise to respond to your questions in one of my upcoming email newsletters. I’d love to hear from you.
If you would like help with the challenges in your relationship, schedule a free Discovery Call with me today and I promise to share at least 1 tool to help you reconnect with yourself and your spouse.
And, if you and your spouse are arguing over money, I highly recommend reading Barbara Huson’s book, Rewire for Wealth.
If this email resonates with you, please forward this on to a friend who might benefit from it too.
Want help to feel less money strife in your marriage?
1. Click here to join my private Facebook group, The Pleasure Led Wife.
2. Private message me here with any questions you might have about my 1:1 or couples’ coaching programs.
3. Apply here to get on the wait list for my Marriage Reconnect coaching program. Doors open again in February.
4. Sign up here for a free 60 minute Discovery Call. Find out how coaching with me can reignite that spark of emotional & physical connection.
5. Click here to learn more about the Marriage Reconnect program.
Most important. Take care of you.
Here are 5 easy suggestions:
1. Get enough sleep. Establish a bedtime routine and follow it.
2. Get outside in nature every day. Rain or shine.
3. Appreciate what is wonderful in the world. Write 3-5 things you are grateful for each day.
4. Reach out to a sister. Call her once a week – or every day. Ask how she is and what she is feeling. Give her the space to release her feelings without any judgment or fixing.
5. Treat yourself to pleasure. Dance. Take a nap. Sing out loud. Read a novel. Soak in the tub. Do anything you want – just for the pleasure of it.
With all my love.
From my heart to yours.