Don’t Give Up

This is my gentle reminder to you.
Don’t give up on your sex life.

Bring fun, play and pleasure into the game.

We’re not having sex because my partner’s…

• too tired
• not interested
• too old
• too busy

These are statements I hear often from my clients.
Before we start coaching together, my clients believe that their statement is true.
A fact.

Sounds rather hopeless.
Not so when the focus is re-directed back on themselves.

Don’t give up.

When my clients stop giving all the power to their spouse,
other options emerge.

When they
– Take 100% responsibility for their sex life.
– Let go of being stuck in blame and resentment.
– Bring fun, play and pleasure into the game.

Fun, play and pleasure ARE the game changers.

3 things to do before you give up on your sex life with your partner:

1. Increase the probability.

Schedule sex.
Plain and simple.
Get it on the calendar.
BONUS: Find a time that works for the both of you not only logistically, time-wise, but energetically. Schedule sex for a time in the day (or night) you each feel sexual.
This makes for some interesting conversations and arrangements with my husband and me as he’s a morning person and I’m a night owl.
DON’T answer the phone – or a knock on the door.
Your sex time together is #1 on the list.
Don’t give up your precious together time to anyone.

2. Have your head in the game.

Pre-heat the oven.
Your oven.
Come to the party fully present and ready to play.
BONUS: Get your motor running before your partner shows up.
Put your work – and the unfolded laundry – away.
Out of sight, out of mind.
Get into your body.
Dance to your favorite up-beat or sensual music.
Put on some sexy underthings, or no things.
Start the party early – by yourself.

3. Take the pressure off.

Drop the Big-O goal.
More important than the Big-O is the slow, skin to skin pleasure-ful connection with each other.
Explore each other’s bodies and soak up every last drop.
BONUS: Love your own body in whatever form it’s showing up in – after babies, after gravity, after menopause, after COVID weight gain, after surgeries.
It’s your beautiful body.
Love it.
YOU love it first.
Then, allow your partner to love your body.
Cherry on top.

Don’t give up.

Go out and practice.
Bring fun, play and pleasure into the game.

Don’t give up on your sex life.

If your sex life could use a re-set, contact me to discover how you can have more connection, more pleasure and more fun with your partner.

Schedule your complementary Discovery Call here.

Do you know women that are in a long lull in their marriages and miss the heart to heart connection with their husbands?
Through my 1:1 coaching program I help women in long term committed relationships reignite the connection, pleasure and intimacy with their partners.

Click here to sign up for a Discovery Call and get yourself out of that long lull.

Whenever you are ready, here are three things that you can do this week: 
1. Click here to join my private Facebook group, The Pleasure Led Wife.
2. Private message me here with any questions about my coaching programs: Marriage Tune Up  & Marriage Rebuild: Get Your Motor Running.
3. Sign up here for a free 60 minute Discovery Call. Find out how coaching with me can reignite that spark of fun, play & sexual connection.

Most important. Take care of you.

Here are 5 easy suggestions:
1. Get enough sleep. Establish a bedtime routine and follow it. 
2. Get outside in nature every day. Rain or shine. 
3. Appreciate what is wonderful in the world. Write 3-5 things you are grateful for each day.
4. Reach out to a sister. Call her once a week – or every day. Ask how she is and what she is feeling. Give her the space to release her feelings without any judgment or fixing.
5. Treat yourself to pleasure. Dance. Take a nap. Sing out loud. Read a novel. Soak in the tub. Do anything you want – just for the pleasure of it. 

With all my love.
From my heart to yours.
Gail