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Feel Your Feels – 3 EZ Lessons

This is my gentle reminder to you.
Feel all your feels.

Your life will thank you for it.

Our lives are constantly shifting and changing.
With each change comes a myriad of emotions.
Feel your feels.

I have 3 EZ lessons in the “Feel Your Feels” module that I share with my clients.

Lesson 1: Grow Your Feeling Vocabulary

There was a time when I had no name for what I was feeling.
I had just separated from my first husband and I was in a mess of hurt.
Yet I didn’t have the words to even begin to describe what I was feeling.

Back then I had no idea if I was feeling a feeling.
Forget about finding a word to describe that feeling.
I had been hiding from my feelings for more than a decade with food, work, marijuana, and exercise.

I had to go to the basic bare bones.
Mad?
Sad?
Scared?
Glad?

What was it?

Many of my clients start here too.
We move on to add synonyms to get to the exact shade of mad or sad that’s vibrating through our bodies.

Feel the feel –  and name it.

Lesson 2: Use The Triple A Process

It’s so important that we don’t stuff our feelings down, shut them off, and store them away to unpack later.

I teach my clients a simple – yet effective – process to become
Aware of what they are feeling.
Accept what they are feeling & to
Allow whatever they are feeling to flow through their bodies.

I call it the Triple A Process.
EZ PZ.

All feelings are OK.
You can handle them.
When you allow yourself to feel something fully, it’ll last about 12 seconds.
The feelings pass.

It’s the resistance that causes the problem.
I help my clients get through to the other side.
We’ve got this.

Lesson 3: Feel It & You’ll Create It

Have you tried creating from feeling it first?
This is a twist on the phrase I learned in the 12 Step rooms, “fake it till you make it”.

In this module I teach my clients how to refocus their brain and re-set their feeling state.
This is where we go from stuck to back in action.

Believe it until you achieve it.

I used to ride motorcycle.
An important lesson that kept me upright and moving forward was to keep my eyes on where I wanted to go and not on the pothole where I didn’t want to go.

Truly this is an exercise in trust.

The other day I helped a client who felt stuck in her job search.
She didn’t know what she wanted to do and she was afraid that she would repeat her past mistakes.

We focused on what she wanted to feel in her new job.
She went from stuck and confused to clear, confident and passionate.
Actions went from impossible to possible fueled by her new emotions.

Back on track, back in motion.

Focus on where you want to go in the future rather than where you’ve been in the past.

Feel Your Feels

3 EZ lessons.

1. Grow your feeling vocabulary. Greet your feelings by name.
2. Accept & Allow your feelings to flow through you.
3. Use the feelings you want to feel to get unstuck and back in action.

Today is the day.
Go out and practice.
Your life will thank you for it.

Feel all the feels.

Want to practice in a safe group with other women? We start in June. Details can be found here.

“You and I possess within ourselves at every moment of our lives, under all circumstances, the power to transform the quality of our lives.”
Werner Erhard

 

P.S.  Forward this email to a friend who may need a gentle reminder.  Ask them to join my email list right here. 

P.P.S. Sign up here for a free 60 minute coaching consult call. Learn more about how coaching with me can get you unstuck and back in forward motion.

P.P.P.S. Missed my webinar “Untangle Your Thoughts – Take the Leap to Peace & Freedom”? Watch the replay right here. 

Most important. Take care of you.

Here are 5 easy suggestions:
1. Get enough sleep. Establish a bedtime routine and follow it. 

2. Get outside every day. Rain or shine. Take a walk.
3. Appreciate what is wonderful in the world. Write 3 things you are grateful for every day.
4. Get a buddy. Call them every day. Ask how they are and what they are up to. Ask them if they need anything.
5. Give yourself a pleasure treat. Pick yourself some flowers. Take a nap. Read a novel. Do anything you want – just for the  fun of it. 

With all my love.
From my heart to yours.
Gail

One more P.S. Want to read more on this topic? See Give Your Feelings Room

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Gail Tremblay

I help men & women who feel lonely & discouraged in their marriages feel connected with their spouses again.

Schedule a Free Discovery Call with me today.