Here are the 6 principles that form the foundation of my work:
1. You are in charge of your marriage and yourself. Your spouse isn’t.
Start with recognizing and stepping away from being a victim. Standing there is never a powerful place to be.
You are the one called forward to initiate the work that will set the dance of change in motion. Be the initial domino. Take the first step. Your partner will respond to your words, to your emotions, to your actions.
2. The health of your marriage depends on how well you take care of yourself.
3. Pleasure and fun are not the result of a good, connected marriage. They actually generate it.
Committed relationships bring out all the unresolved issues from our past, as well as those from the generations before us – the conversations and stories that we inherited from our parents and their parents.
The key to your evolution and growth begins with you. Your marriage is simply an easy access point.
5. Growth isn’t always comfortable.
It involves all the feels. Including the low notes at the far end of the keyboard:
Rage. Grief. Despair.
Growth involves the full process of acknowledging, expressing and releasing. It’s a continual cycle of digesting, letting go and beginning again. It’s worth the discomfort to build your capacity to love and connect with your spouse.
6. The more you open your heart to receiving love, the more you’ll get.
Your partner wants to make you happy. Love is already being given to you, though it may not look or sound the way you think it should. Accepting and showing gratitude turns the love faucet on. The more you open your heart to receiving love, I promise, the more you’ll get.
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