This Challenge Is For You

This Challenge Is For You

The challenges in your marriage are for you.
Lean in and learn all you can.

Adopt an attitude of curiosity.

Observe what’s happening as it unfolds before you.
Witness your participation.

What thoughts are you having?
Write them down.

What expression is on your face?
What posture is your body in?
Use your phone and snap a photo.

What words are coming out of your mouth?
What do you want to say – and are not saying?
Make a short recording for yourself of what words you have about the situation
Don’t hold back.

Note how it lands in your body.

Where do you feel the most body sensation?
Take a moment to be with those physical feelings.
Pause here.
List 3 adjectives to describe these body sensations or feelings.

A few things NOT to do:

• Don’t judge or shame yourself for what is happening or what you are feeling. It just is.
• Don’t blame how you are feeling or reacting on anyone else – especially your spouse.
• Don’t push the feelings down and try to replace them with a positive or loving thought.

What you did by following these simple steps is:
1) You became aware of what you were thinking and feeling.
2) You detached and accepted all of it with curiosity.
3) You allowed all of it to show up and flow through you.

You looked at it, named it and lessened its grip on you.

Today is the day.
Go out and practice.
Lean in and learn all you can.

The challenges in your marriage are for you.

If you would like help with the challenges in your relationship, schedule a free initial call with me today and learn the lessons that are there just for you.

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Most important. Take care of you.

Here are 5 easy suggestions:
1. Get enough sleep. Establish a bedtime routine and follow it. 
2. Get outside in nature every day. Rain or shine. 
3. Appreciate what is wonderful in the world. Write 3-5 things you are grateful for each day.
4. Reach out to a sister. Call her once a week – or every day. Ask how she is and what she is feeling. Give her the space to release her feelings without any judgment or fixing.
5. Treat yourself to pleasure. Dance. Take a nap. Sing out loud. Read a novel. Soak in the tub. Do anything you want – just for the pleasure of it. 

With all my love.
From my heart to yours.
Gail