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You Are Exactly Where You Should Be

This is my gentle reminder to you.
You are exactly where you should be.

This is what growing & evolving feels like.

Some mornings I wake up and I just want to quit.
I want to give up on my big, hairy, audacious goals.

Feeling disappointment and despair.
Thinking I should be further along than I am.
Telling myself I’m not making the progress I should be making.

I just want to quit.

That’s the moment to make a choice.

Quit?
OR
Don’t quit?

That’s what it boils down to.

Allow yourself some time to wallow in your version of the swamp of misery.

Mine is despair.
Yours might be overwhelm or inadequacy.

Share your swamp with a friend (or a coach) who will allow this feeling to just waft its way through like a fart.
The stink will dissipate.
Give it the time it needs.
Acknowledge the stench and seek fresh air.

The thought  “I should quit”  is temporary and will pass.
You are exactly where you should be.

Let off a little of that pent-up pressure by talking, shouting, dancing or waving your arms about.

Experiment with what works for you.
Stomp your feet.
Move that energy through your body.

Then come back to that big, hairy audacious goal.

I’ve got several that I’m working on:

  • Improving relationships with friends and family.
  • Beautifying my yard.
  • De-cluttering my home.
  • Expanding my life coaching business.
  • Being physically active in beautiful places – with my dog.
  • Becoming an anti-racist everywhere I am.

Consider how you want to feel while achieving that goal.

  • Up to something
  • Motivated
  • Of Service
  • Contribution
  • Making a Difference

Take a deep breath and inhale.
Return to focus on one feeling and one breath.

Generate.

Sit in the driver’s seat.
Grab the steering wheel.
Press down on the accelerator.

BE:

  • Up to something
  • Motivated
  • Of Service
  • Contribution
  • Making a Difference

You’ve got this.

You are exactly where you should be.

What’s your next destination?
Quit?
OR
Being up to something?

Back on the horse, my friend.
Ride it in the direction it’s going.

What’s the next small step to take?

Write it down.
List the next 3 steps.

Follow the map of your own making.

Post your route so you don’t forget where you are going.
Mark your trail with your list to help you remember what you are up to
when you find yourself walking through the Fields of Distraction.

You will get lost in there.

Prepare for the Fields of Distraction before you get there.

Set an alarm on your phone to wake you out of your numbness.
Make copies of your map. Post them as blazes throughout your home.
Record your declaration of accomplishment – and listen to it on the hour.
Draw, paint, photograph, and collage the future you are creating.

Let these images pull you forward out of your sleep state.
Gaze at the target of your big, hairy audacious goals.

(Announce what you are up to in a blog post.)

  • Improving relationships with friends and family.
  • Beautifying my yard.
  • De-cluttering my home.
  • Expanding my life coaching business.
  • Being physically active in beautiful places – with my dog.
  • Becoming an anti-racist everywhere I am.

What’s your next destination?
Quit?
OR being up to something?

Today is the day.
Go out and practice.
This is what growing & evolving looks like.

You are exactly where you should be.

Forward this email to a friend who may need a gentle reminder.  They can join my email list right here. 

Whenever you are ready, here are two things that you can do to get back on track:
1Sign up here for a free 60 minute Discovery Call. Discover how coaching with me can get you unstuck and back in forward motion.  Here’s what people say after working with me.
2. Join the next 4 week series of our Women’s Warrior Group. Tuesdays from 1 PM – 2 PM.  July 7, July 14,  July 21 & July 28.  A safe place to digest & share all that is going on in the world – and in your life.
You can register for the Zoom link here.

Most important. Take care of you.

Here are 5 easy suggestions:
1. Get enough sleep. Establish a bedtime routine and follow it. 

2. Get outside every day. Rain or shine. Take a walk.
3. Appreciate what is wonderful in the world. Write 3 things you are grateful for every day.
4. Get a buddy. Call them every day. Ask how they are and what they are feeling. Ask them if they need anything.
5. Give yourself a pleasure treat. Pick yourself some flowers. Take a nap. Read a novel. Do anything you want – just for the fun of it. 

With all my love.
From my heart to yours.
Gail

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Gail Tremblay

I help men & women who feel lonely & discouraged in their marriages feel connected with their spouses again.

Schedule a Free Discovery Call with me today.