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Zing Thought Loops

Zing Thought Loops

This is my gentle reminder to you.
Consider the thoughts you attach to.

Be less like Velcro and more like Teflon.

A common topic my coaching clients tell me about is some version of
their spouse does something – or in many cases – doesn’t do something.
And they get that “Zing”.

That “Zing” of high sensation in their body that lets them know.
They are pissed off, or frustrated, or resentful, or annoyed, or whatever name they put on it.


And there they are.
Caught and attached in a Zing Thought.

It’s like a spider’s web.

A Zing Thought becomes a Zing Loop.

Over and over the thought is on replay.
They could be here for hours – or even YEARS.
“My spouse never does this” or “My spouse always does that.”

Zing Thought Loops destroy marriages.

Give your relationship the chance to transform
this Velcro Zing Thought Loop stuck-ness
to a slip sliding easy off Teflon film.

Start with noticing.

What is the thought behind the Zing?
It feels so real, so true in the moment.

Capture the thought on a post-it or on an index card.

Do this over a period of several days.
Collect a week’s worth of Zing Thoughts or more.

Once you have your collection of Zing Thoughts, sort them into categories.
Zing Thoughts about this.
Zing Thoughts about that.

Aw, c’mon, don’t tell me you don’t have Zing Thought Loops.
If you’re human, you have ‘em.


Read them over again.
What do you notice?

Take time to feel the emotional sensation
behind the words.

Questions you can expand on in your journal or share with your coach:

Is it true?
Does it really matter?
Who does this thought really belong to?
Am I getting something from having this thought?

After taking a good inward look on the matter,
there may be something you discovered that’s worth sharing,
to become closer
by being vulnerable in a kind and compassionate manner,
with your spouse.

So, rather than zapping your spouse with that Zing Thought
like a cattle prod,
go gently as if toward a skittish calf
with the goal of building trust and connection.

And share what’s been giving you a Zing.
Without a nag or an ultimatum
Or a request to fix or resolve.
Just a sharing of the raw experience of being human.

And see what happens.
To that Zing Thought.
And then with the fun and playful connection between you and your spouse.

That Zing Thought Loop may be just the gift you were looking for.

Today is the day.
Go out and practice.
Be less like Velcro and more like Teflon.

Consider the thoughts you attach to.

I teach “Letting Go of Zing Thoughts” as a module within my 6-month program, “Marriage Reconnect”. If you are interested in the “Marriage Reconnect” program as an individual or as a couple, email me here. 

You deserve a loving, connected and juicy marriage. I’d like to help you get just that.

Send me an email with your relationship questions. I promise to answer your question in one of my upcoming email newsletters. I’d love to hear from you.

If you would like help with the challenges in your relationship, schedule a free Discovery Call with me today and I promise to share at least 1 tool to help you re-connect with your spouse.

Do you know people who feel lonely and discouraged in their marriages?
I work with men and women to reignite the connection, passion and intimacy with their spouses.

Click here to sign up for a Discovery Call and learn how coaching with me can help bring back the fun, play and pleasure with your partner.

This is what my clients have to say about working with me.

If this email resonates with you, please forward this on to a friend who might benefit from it too.

Want help with the challenges in your relationship?
1. Click here to join my private Facebook group, The Pleasure Led Wife.
2. Private message me here with any questions you might have about my 1:1 or couples’ coaching program.
3. Sign up here for a free 60 minute Discovery Call. Find out how coaching with me can reignite that spark of emotional & physical connection. 

Most important. Take care of you.

Here are 5 easy suggestions:
1. Get enough sleep. Establish a bedtime routine and follow it.
2. Get outside in nature every day. Rain or shine.
3. Appreciate what is wonderful in the world. Write 3-5 things you are grateful for each day.
4. Reach out to a sister. Call her once a week – or every day. Ask how she is and what she is feeling. Give her the space to release her feelings without any judgment or fixing.
5. Treat yourself to pleasure. Dance. Take a nap. Sing out loud. Read a novel. Soak in the tub. Do anything you want – just for the pleasure of it.

With all my love.
From my heart to yours.

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gail tremblay

Gail Tremblay

I help men & women who feel lonely & discouraged in their marriages feel connected with their spouses again.

Schedule a Free Discovery Call with me today.