Be Your Own Best Spouse

This is my gentle reminder to you.
Love yourself up.

Be your own best spouse.

Many of my clients come to me with wanting their spouses to change.

If only he/she did this – or didn’t do that –
Our marriage would be so much better.

If he/she were:
More sexual.
Less focused on work.
More affectionate.

If only he/she were different.
Everything would be better.

Not so.

If your spouse continued to do (or not do) exactly what they do (or don’t do)

What could YOU do differently?

You have a desire – a wish – a dream.
And you want your spouse to fulfill it for you.

Not likely.

If it was going to happen, it would have happened already.

How can you fulfill this desire YOURSELF?

Hey, if your partner delivers on your desire in the meantime or by accident – or as a result of your change of tactics – that is a cherry on top of the sundae of your own making.

I’ve always been a stop-waiting-around-take-charge type of gal.
I invite you to try the same.

Stop wishing, hoping and praying for your spouse to change.

It ain’t happening.

Stop wasting your energy and redirect it back to you.

Whatever it is that you wish your partner would do,
I want you to do it FOR YOU.

Buy yourself flowers.
Tell yourself that you’re beautiful.
Stroke your body the way you like to be stroked.
Light candles when you eat your meals.
Write yourself a love letter.

Do all this FOR YOU.

Give yourself the attention, the words, and the touch that you crave from your partner.

Start there.
Love yourself up.

Fill your own love bucket to overflowing.

Then see who you become in your marriage.

Move from disappointment & resentment to allowing, accepting and appreciating.

Keep experimenting with loving yourself up in all the ways possible.

Stop waiting for your partner to change.

Be the one to make the first move to loving you the way you deserve to be loved.

What if improving your marriage or rekindling that loving connection, has less to do with them and all to do with you?

If you courted you, found yourself irresistible and fell in love with yourself – then what?
What impact would this have on your marriage?

Go out and practice.
Be your own best spouse.

Love yourself up.

I help women who’ve been married for ten years or more, reignite the connection, passion and intimacy with their spouses.

Would you like to turn up the flame with your partner?

Click here to sign up for a consult call and learn how coaching with me can make the difference you long for in your marriage.

What do you get?

Peace of mind.
Love of your self.
Joy within your marriage.

Click here to sign up for a consult call to see how your marriage can go from lukewarm to steaming hot.

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Most important. Take care of you.

Here are 5 easy suggestions:
1. Get enough sleep. Establish a bedtime routine and follow it. 
2. Get outside in nature every day. Rain or shine. 
3. Appreciate what is wonderful in the world. Write 3-5 things you are grateful for each day.
4. Reach out to a sister. Call her once a week – or every day. Ask how she is and what she is feeling. Give her the space to release her feelings without any judgment or fixing.
5. Treat yourself to pleasure. Dance. Take a nap. Sing out loud. Read a novel. Soak in the tub. Do anything you want – just for the pleasure of it. 

With all my love.
From my heart to yours.
Gail