Celebrating Lessons Learned

Celebrating Lessons Learned

This is my gentle reminder to you.
The best is yet to come.

Your marriage is an opportunity for you to evolve and grow.

Tomorrow is my husband’s and my 24^th wedding anniversary.
That’s a big deal.

Marriage is not easy.
It takes a lot more than finding the right partner.
There’s growing with your partner.

Here are the lessons I learned from 24 years of marriage:

1. Choose if you’re in or out.

Standing with one foot out the door or one hand on the exit is not helpful to you or your relationship.
Commit. Be all in. Or all out. Choose.

2. Let go of thoughts that don’t serve your marriage.

Judging, criticizing and blaming your partner – or yourself – is not helpful to you or your relationship.
Dump all your negative thoughts and feelings about your partner, yourself or your marriage out on a daily basis to gain access to your positive, creative problem-solving self. Less powerless nag and more powerful priestess.

3. Upgrade your thoughts.

Thinking and believing negative thoughts about your partner, yourself or your marriage is not helpful to you or your relationship.
Become aware of your thoughts, accept them and allow them to pass. Then, intentionally upgrade and align your thoughts, feelings and actions with The Alignment Process.*

4. Lead a pleasure led life.

Compromising on your wants, putting yourself last and running yourself ragged is not helpful to you or your relationship.
Pleasure is the best antidote to stress. Use your five senses to create fun, play and pleasure in your everyday. Bring your zesty, juicy self to your marriage.

5. Receive the love your spouse is sending your way.

Resisting and not acknowledging the way your partner expresses love for you is not helpful to you or your relationship.
Surrender and appreciate the love that your partner pours into you and your life together. Look for how they give their love to you and thank them.

6. Accept and allow your spouse to be the person that they are.

Trying to train, mold or change your partner to be someone other than who they are is not helpful to you or your relationship.
Bring curiosity and compassion to your interactions with your spouse. Give them the space and respect they deserve for their full self-expression.

These are the 6 lessons I learned in my 24 years of marriage. I share them with you in depth in my Marriage Reconnect Program.

You deserve a loving, connected, juicy marriage. I’d love to help you get just that.

I work with individuals and couples.
Send me an email with your relationship questions or about the Marriage Reconnect program. I’d love to hear from you.

Today is the day.
Go out and practice.
Your marriage is an opportunity for you to evolve and grow.

The best is yet to come.

*I teach the Alignment Process and other tools within my 6-month program, “Marriage Reconnect”. If you are interested in the “Marriage Reconnect” program as an individual or as a couple, you can email me here.

If you would like help with the challenges in your relationship, schedule a free initial call with me today and begin to learn the tools to help you re-connect with your spouse.

Do you know people who feel lonely and discouraged in their marriages?
I work with men and women to reignite the connection, passion and intimacy with their spouses.

Click here to sign up for a consult call and learn how coaching with me can help bring back the fun, play and pleasure with your partner.

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Want help with the challenges in your relationship?
1. Click here to join my private Facebook group, The Pleasure Led Wife.
2. Private message me here with any questions you might have about my 1:1 or couples’ coaching program.
3. Sign up here for a free 60 minute Discovery Call. Find out how coaching with me can reignite that spark of emotional & physical connection. 

Most important. Take care of you.

Here are 5 easy suggestions:
1. Get enough sleep. Establish a bedtime routine and follow it. 
2. Get outside in nature every day. Rain or shine. 
3. Appreciate what is wonderful in the world. Write 3-5 things you are grateful for each day.
4. Reach out to a sister. Call her once a week – or every day. Ask how she is and what she is feeling. Give her the space to release her feelings without any judgment or fixing.
5. Treat yourself to pleasure. Dance. Take a nap. Sing out loud. Read a novel. Soak in the tub. Do anything you want – just for the pleasure of it. 

With all my love.
From my heart to yours.
Gail